The Coming Revolution

I’m finishing up a week-long break from the crazy and needed to write about the upcoming revolution in my life:

In 41 days, my little girl is going away to college, and I just can’t even.


Yes, I know it’s time and I know it’s all part of the growing up and adulting process, but inside I am rebelling. I look at her and I see the little girl who used to sit at my feet, telling and acting out endless make believe stories with action figures and Barbies. I see the girl who read Harry Potter books back to back and the figure skater who threw herself into jumping and spinning.

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When I try to imagine life after she moves away, a switch turns off in my head, and I can’t. This is an unfamiliar phenomenon for me because usually I have an overactive imagination, conjuring up ALL THE THINGS that might possibly transpire. But when I contemplate August 18, my mind goes blank.

As in, I can’t think about this. Genuinely, truly, cannot hold the thought into my head. I know it WILL happen. But I can’t visualize it. Don’t want to visualize it. Don’t want to acknowledge it.

But it’s there.

I remember standing in the hospital bathroom in the ugly hospital gown, looking at my laboring self in the mirror. No matter what I wanted, this baby was coming out. It was time. There was no going back, no return. I took a deep breath, steadied my shoulders, and faced the coming revolution in my life.

I feel the same sort of sea change coming. It’s a tsunami wave, and there is nothing to do except wake up each morning and face it. I’m not the same person that I was when my daughter was born. And really, that is a good thing. Being her mother has softened me in some ways and made some of my edges sharper. I’d like to think it has made me a better person. And I hope that watching her take flight will change me in positive ways as well.

But just as I stood in the hospital room, feeling unprepared and unequipped for the journey ahead, I feel the same way now, only worse. I don’t know how to be me apart from the mother. But I’ll learn, right?

There’s nothing else for it except to face it. But I don’t have to think about it just yet. Instead I will embrace the 41 days I have left with this lovely and lively young woman I’ve been privileged to raise!


One thought on “The Coming Revolution

  1. A year ago right now I swear I felt exactly the same. It’s a weird place of mental denial that is necessary to keep pushing forward to the inevitable crushing separation. And I’m not going to lie, the first month almost killed me! I will reassure you that it actually does get easier. Honest. I still miss Gabby so much sometimes that it takes my breath away…but I don’t feel that way ALL the time anymore. Mama’s of only daughters (who were homeschooled, at that) have a special, almost crippling bond, I think. It feels like a physical ripping away when they leave but I assure you the rip heals. It leaves a bit of a scar but it WILL heal. Text or call me if you need to talk!!

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